Clearing Out The Clutter

I took some time to clear out my clutter.

I had my mind so cluttered with unresolved anger, resentment, grief, guilt, and thoughts of unworthiness.
I couldn’t sleep at night effectively.
I could not focus clearly on any project.
I took my anger and frustration out on those that did not deserve it – those that love me the most…my children.
I had thoughts of unworthiness towards myself.
I could not accept a compliment.
I picked the same abusive relationships time and time again.
I would turn to alcohol to numb my pain.
I was convinced that I was not beautiful.
I did not love myself at all.

I am so happy to say that all these statements are in the past now in my life.
I have been on a healing journey of growth, acceptance, forgiveness, and love.
I now honor myself and what has happened in my life.
I am the ‘me’ I was created to be.

I am so thankful to those that have been with me on this journey in the last two years.
I am so thankful to my God for never giving up on me and placing the right people in my life at the right time.
I am so thankful for my mentor Laurie Davis for always believing in me and loving me.
I am so thankful for my family for loving me and supporting me.
I am so thankful for my husband for his unending love for me.

I am so thankful that I went on this journey and cleared out my clutter.

Let The Good Be Known

I have three questions for you today.
What are you hanging onto today that is stopping your progress?
What do you need to let go of?
Why would you want to hang onto a negative experience and color the rest of your life with it?
Mary Morrissey’s message deals with forgiveness and breaking free.

Please enjoy what Mary has to say.

“Forgiveness is a shift in perception which removes a block to the awareness of Love’s presence. To not forgive is akin to drinking a little poison each day and expecting the other person to die. Forgiveness is a cleansing of our mental field. It cleanses misperceptions and puts us in a higher vibration.

We have the power to charge every experience with an opinion and decide “this is good, or this is not good.” When we claim something is not good, we have simply removed ourselves from the opportunity to transform that experience, claim its good and use that good as a lever for our ever-upward movement in the spiral of becoming.

Remove the negative charge, shift your perception and the good that is ever-present in this life experience can make itself known.”

Let’s welcome the good in our lives and forgive the rest.

Let the good be known
Paula

Taking Action

For so long I felt my life was unbalanced.
I would rush to accomplish what I thought I had to do. I would rush to run my four children around to where I thought they had to go. I would rush to do our household errands. I would rush to do our business errands. I would rush to rush. I was always on the go.
I would focus on areas in my life that I had under control and wonder why the other areas were not. I always felt like life was a balancing act.
And that is where I had it wrong. So wrong.
I have now learned that I need to work on the areas I am weak in. I have learned not to ignore myself and my needs. I have learned that if I do not take care of myself then no one else will.
I have learned that my life is not a balancing act but rather balancing action. Action on developing areas in my life that need some attention. Action on taking care of me so I can better take care of my life. Action on putting God first, family second, and career third on my list of priorities.
Now I find that I am not rushing through life but in fact enjoying it.
I take action everyday to build the balance in my life.

I thank my friend and mentor Laurie Davis for showing me how to build balance.
If you want to learn more about truly building balance in your life please visit Laurie’s site www.thepepline.com

Believing in your balanced life
Paula

ps Please enjoy this Alabama song “I’m In A Hurry”. It really hit home with me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CICwZ01bT3w

Taking Up Running

Sometimes we just need to get away.
Get away from our jobs, our families, our stress, our lives.
Even if it is only for a few minutes.

I used to think I was “running away” from my stress.  Running away from my work, taking a play date away from my life.  I would “run away” and come back refreshed and ready to take on the world.  I would be rested with a new perspective to improve my world.
One of my mentors Laurie Davis pointed out to me a valuable lesson. She showed me what I was REALLY doing.

I was not “running away” from my stress…. I was “RUNNING TO” my solution.

I love this way of thinking.
You see when you run away and take a break – be it for an hour, a day, a week, or a month it doesn’t matter. You come back refreshed with a renewed plan, renewed energy, renewed spirit.  Sometimes you have even met people in your ‘run’ who you have connected with.  People that have been put on your path to help you.  Or maybe you were put on their path to help them.
Either way when you ‘run to’ something you are still on your path to success.

 

Encouraging you to take up running
Paula

 

To learn more about Laurie Davis and her work please visit    www.thepepline.com

Live For Today

I would like to share a poem and a lesson I learned with you.

If you have a tender message,

Or a loving word to say

Do not wait till you forget it

But whisper it today.

The tender word unspoken,

The letter never sent

The long forgotten messages,

The wealth of love unspent.

For these words some hearts are breaking,

For these words some love ones wait,

So show them that you care for them,

Before it is too late.

–Frank Herbert Sweet

In 1989 my grandfather Mahlon Kitching passed away peacefully in his sleep.

It happened one month before my first wedding. I had come back to town to make preparations for the wedding. Always when I would come back the first place I went was to go visit my grandfather. This time I decided not to see him until the next day. He passed away that night.

From then on my life changed. I vowed to always hug my family everytime we parted and to NEVER put off until tomorrow how I feel about them today.

I learned to always live for today in case tomorrow doesn’t come.

I love you Grandad. I still do.

encouraging you to live for today,

Paula

Dare To Be Different

A friend of mine had a problem the other day. One of the people in his life criticized what he was doing with his life. This really touched me.

So often when we are changing, learning, and growing those around us who are not like to judge. They like to attack, criticize, comment on how we will fail. Usually these people are our valued family members or friends that we have listened to for years. We like to tell ourselves that they have our best interests at heart – but the cold hard truth is….. they don’t. These people are just slinging their own mud and garbage at us. It is up to us it we keep it, carry it, or wash it off.

Even better – dodge it!
Please remember when you are changing the people around you may not understand. It is what they do with that confusion that will let you know where they really stand with you.
I went through a really bad time in my life when I made some really poor choices. My parents did not understand why I would do these things. My parents also knew that I needed support in this time. I received the support I needed and came out on the other side a better person for going through it. If they had not supported me… well, I may not be here today.

I have also went down a path that no one in my family has gone.  That no one understood.  Once again my parents supported my path.  Some others did not.  I chose to ignore them.  I do not want my life to end up like theirs so why would I listen?  One day maybe they will see and then I will be able to help them go down their chosen path.

So when mud slingers come your way just remember – dare to be different and DODGE IT!!

Believing in you and your decisions,

Paula

ps.  Here is a great video clip of the amazing Jim Rohn and his words of wisdom on this very subject.

We All Have A Plan

Have you ever noticed that when you are on the right track things just come together beautifully like a well thought out plan? Maybe you made a decision and it felt right. The next thing you know people are showing up in your life to support you and your direction on that decision. Doors are opening for you, everything is falling in line, opportunity is knocking. It is like someone planned this out in detail for your life.
I believe we all have a great plan for our lives. I believe when we were thought of – before we were created- that a wonderful and great plan was laid out for us to find.
Have you ever noticed that when you feel something is wrong for you – it is? If you push ahead in a direction that you feel is wrong you get no help at all. As a matter of fact doors slam in your face, you get stressed out, everything seems to be set against your progress in this direction. That is because you are not on your path. You are not seeking out your plan.
I believe we were all given a plan for our lives.  A plan that leads to making our lives better, a plan that leads to making our relationships better, a plan that leads to helping others find their way on their path… a plan that leads to making our world a better place.

I believe we all have a plan.  Pursue it, find it, and follow it.  And help others to do the same. 

“A person has three choices in life. You can swim against the tide and get exhausted, or you can tread water and let the tide sweep you away, or you can swim with the tide, and let it take you where it wants you to go.”– Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider, Northern Exposure, Northern Lights, 1993

Believing in you and your plan

Paula

Let It Go

Do you hold on to memories of what has happened thinking “If only…” , or “I should have…”, or “I can’t believe…”, or whatever else you are telling yourself?  It is time to let go.  Today’s Daily Dream Builder from Mary Morrissey really spoke to me.  In it she tells a story that really hit home for me.  I would love to share this with you.  Please enjoy.

“There is an ancient teaching story about two Buddhist monks walking along a river in silence. They have a vow of chastity –which includes many vows, but one of these vows of chastity requires that they never speak to, or ever touch, a woman.

As they walk up the river, they come upon a woman who is desperately trying to get across the river because her child is on the other side. It is a fast-flowing river and she is frightened to cross the river by herself. The one monk walks over to her and says, “May I help you?” He picks her up and with the strength that he carries in his legs that walk mountains and valleys and streams as part of his work, he carries her across the river, sets her down, returns to join his fellow and they begin again to walk in silence.

About two hours later the second monk says to the first monk, “I can’t believe you carried that woman across the river. I can’t believe you touched her. I can’t believe that you broke your vows.”

The other monk simply looks at his companion and says, “I put her down two hours ago. You are still carrying her.”

It’s such a wonderful story about us simply learning to put something down.

Let’s consider what are we still carrying that really isn’t happening anymore. What are we still hanging onto that isn’t in our present moment?

Let’s put it down…And when we put that down, we now have our hands, our heart and our mind available to what’s here, right now.”

Here’s To Letting Go,

Paula

Use The Back Door

How many times have you not attempted something because you were afraid that you would fail at it?  You convinced yourself you could not do it, that you tried before and it did not work out, that your friend tried and failed so therefore you will fail as well.  Well let me tell you something. 

Failing is how we learn to succeed.

Yes, you heard me right.  We do not always get everything right the first time.  Where would be the lesson in that?  So if you think about it failing is essential to your success. 

Think of anything you have been successful at.  How about learning to walk?  I am sure you fell a few times learning to walk.  So you failed at learning to walk.  Some of us failed at that many many times.  Yet you eventually learned and now you walk without even thinking about it.  You are a success at walking. 

Instead of looking at failure as something negative why not look at it for what it really is?  Your path to success, your short cut to achievement,  your lesson learned.

Failure…… your back door to success.

Here’s to failing,

Paula

Time To Fly

This wonderful morning I was reminded of a great inspirational poem that I would like to share with you.

Come To The Edge  by Guilliame Apollinaire

Come to the edge, he said.
We are afraid, they said.
Come to the edge, he said.
They came to the edge,
He pushed them and they flew.

Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came. It pushed them…
And they flew.

Something to think about.

Wishing you a fantastic flight,

Paula